The Men We Need is highly praised for its refreshing take on Christian masculinity, encouraging men to be protectors and "keepers of the garden." Readers appreciate Hansen's humor, relatable style, and practical advice. The book challenges men to take responsibility, show up, and make a positive impact. While some critics note theological inconsistencies, most find it an engaging and thought-provoking read. Many reviewers recommend it for both men and women, highlighting its potential to shape character and relationships.
Embrace Your Role as a Keeper of the Garden
Forsake the Fake and Relish the Real
Protect the Vulnerable and Take Responsibility
Be Ambitious About the Right Things
Make Women and Children Feel Safe, Not Threatened
Choose Today Who You Will Become Tomorrow
Take Responsibility for Your Own Spiritual Life
Masculinity is about taking responsibility.
Garden metaphor. The concept of being a "keeper of the garden" is central to true masculinity. This role involves protecting, defending, and cultivating the people and things around you. It's about creating a safe and thriving environment for those in your sphere of influence.
Responsibility and action. Taking responsibility is at the core of masculinity. This means stepping up when needed, even if it's uncomfortable or risky. It's about being proactive in addressing issues and not waiting for someone else to solve problems. Examples include:
Intervening when you see injustice
Taking initiative in your family and community
Being accountable for your actions and their consequences
Wow, that's beautiful! And I don't have to have it.
Dangers of supernormal stimuli. Our modern world is filled with exaggerated versions of reality that can hijack our natural responses. These include:
Pornography
Addictive video games
Junk food
Social media likes and validation
Embracing authenticity. True fulfillment comes from engaging with real life, real relationships, and real challenges. This involves:
Cultivating genuine connections with people
Finding satisfaction in meaningful work and accomplishments
Appreciating beauty without needing to possess everything
Your neighborhood should be safer simply because you're there.
Active protection. Being a protector doesn't always mean physical confrontation. It can involve:
Being aware of your surroundings
Speaking up against injustice
Using your skills and resources to help those in need
Responsibility for others. Taking responsibility extends beyond yourself to those around you, especially the vulnerable. This includes:
Children
Elderly neighbors
Those facing discrimination or hardship
Even terrible jobs are great.
Redefining ambition. True ambition isn't about accumulating wealth or status, but about:
Making a positive impact on others
Growing in character and wisdom
Fulfilling your God-given purpose
Finding meaning in work. Every job, no matter how mundane, offers opportunities to:
Serve others
Develop skills and discipline
Contribute to society's functioning
She will never forget it, Dad. All that time giggling and playing with you.
Creating security. Men should strive to be a source of safety and stability, especially for women and children. This involves:
Emotional stability and reliability
Consistent presence and engagement
Respect and gentleness
Prioritizing family. For those with families, this means:
Being fully present when at home
Engaging in children's lives and activities
Supporting and uplifting your spouse
Reality is what hits you when you're wrong.
Shaping your future self. Every decision you make today impacts who you'll become. This involves:
Cultivating good habits
Learning from mistakes
Surrounding yourself with positive influences
Embracing reality. Avoid self-deception and face the truth about:
Your strengths and weaknesses
The consequences of your actions
The needs of those around you
Don't follow your heart—open your eyes.
Active spiritual growth. Your spiritual life is your responsibility. This means:
Regular prayer and meditation
Studying and applying spiritual teachings
Serving others as an act of worship
Balancing emotion and obedience. Spirituality isn't just about feelings, but about:
Consistent obedience to your beliefs
Acting on what you know is right, even when it's difficult
Cultivating a deeper understanding of your faith